Every day life with Paisley is anything but ordinary. We continue to build that trust and felt safety with her so she will know that her years of abandonment are over. We constantly do things that are the opposite to how we think parenting "should be".
There are a lot of varying opinions about kids sleeping in their parents' bed, but Daniel and I have to remember that the way we parent is to build an everlasting bond with Paisley. Outside of the adoption world, I am not a huge proponent of kids sleeping with their parents although there are exceptions to every rule. All kids crave love, affection, trust, and felt safety through touch and being next to their parents. It is in our being to feel these things. The question to myself is this: Why am I denying a child (bio or adopted) these important building blocks for years to come just because I am not a fan or it isn't convenient for me? Part of being a parent is about sacrifice and raising children who are upstanding people who can make a difference in this world.
Every day I am faced with the real truth and challenge that there was a broken bond between Paisley and her birth mother. As natural as I would like for it to be, our Momma-Paisley bond will never be as strong as the bond she was supposed to have with her bio mom. Paisley spent (we only can assume at this point) roughly 9 months living and growing inside her bio mom. Those are 9 crucial months I will never experience with Paisley. However, I will spend the rest of my lifetime forming a relationship with Paisley as her Momma where she feels loved, protected, cared for, provided for, safe, wanted, appreciated, adored, cherished, and remembered. And why is letting Paisley fall asleep in our bed a huge, big deal again?
|the littlest Sleeping Beauty in her momma and baba's bed|